Uniquely YOU
Uniquely YOUR inner world
Obvious truths
I want to begin withsome obvious truths -
Every human being is unique (including you and me).
We show up as a combination of our internal multiple perspectives that sometimes disagree with one another - you know, those arguments we have in our own minds - shall I? shan’t I? I should have! I shouldn’t have! I mustn’t but I want to! combined with the internalised memories of people, situations and circumstances that have impacted us during our lives along with (often hidden) vulnerabilities.
Being human isn’t very easy
How we’ve learned to be
Most of us have lived much of our lives according to what we’ve learned is the ‘right’ way to be, the right way to succeed, the right way to look, etc. - the safe way, the way to fix problems to feel better or avoid feeling vulnerable.
This works to a point but it can be stressful, exhausting and eventually unsustainable. And, many of the ways we wind down, get relief, relax may result in us feeling better in the moment but often do not last.
When it no longer works
For many of us, there comes a point where the old strategies stop working — where the gap between how we've always coped and what feels true now becomes too painful to keep ignoring.
That gap is worth listening to. It's often a protector, working overtime, asking for something to change.
The shift to Self-Leadership
The shift from living ‘outside-in’ to living ‘inside-out’ requires courage and commitment, and can be uncomfortable.
But if we persist we will experience deep healing, reframing of out-of-date debilitating beliefs, more vitality and wellbeing.
Inside all of us is a source of wisdom, love, peace and energy.
But how can we change the way we’ve always done it? How can we access our inner resourcefulness? How can we heal our pasts?
This is where coaching / IFS therapy is super helpful.
Coaching / IFS therapy
helps us to clearly envision new possibilities, surface and reframe historic limiting beliefs, heal old wounds and access our inherent resourcefulness.
Some of the natural outcomes are
experiencing greater self-compassion, making wiser choices, growing mutually rewarding relationships, experiencing inner alignment and joy, expressing ourselves with greater confidence and clarity.
And it’s contagious!
When one person shows up as their courageous, compassionate, authentic self it seems that they naturally positively impact those around them - simply by their presence.
What if …?
I like to imagine that as we each bring our healed selves, our unique inner essence and authentic presence to our day-to-day interactions and actions we might, in a small way, send a healing ripple out into the wider world.
Sparking change
Perhaps we can spark a change for the better in the world by simply being uniquely, authentically us - together.
